LOL sounds a right charmer 

wow he asked after one day ?  how long after did you marry ?
must have really been love at 1st sight 

Very romantic Mr and Mrs Belle.  Sounds like romantic husband.  "So we may as well get married."
Very romantic.

Joia

Ah, you'll get round to it! If the whole planning thing freaks you out (and who could blame you? Weddings can get scary!) have you thought about just slipping off and getting married one afternoon?

Am I right in thinking you're in the UK? How about this plan? Wander a long to the local registrar of births, marriages and deaths. You don't have to pick the nearest, so look for one with a pretty Victorian building - some of them are really beautiful. Take your birth certs (and divorce decree / previous spouse's death cert, if applicable) and sign some paperwork. Pay a small fee (I think it's about £24) and then, three weeks later, go back and exchange vows. Get two friends or random strangers to stand witness.

Then go home, tell everyone and get (here comes the clever bit!) someone else to plan the mother of all parties for you!


Well, it's an option! I have a few friends who did this and they had a lot of fun!

Otherwise, let us all help plan your big fairy tale wedding. There are a few recently married CDIers and I'm sure between us we can get on with the planning!

I love a good party...
 

Jen

You have all of my (our) sympathy. We are getting married on May 8th, after 24 years and 2 children together. Yesterday evening we were trying to recollect how/when we decided, and we couldn't  .

And it's not even too long ago we did - three months at most. The only good thing is I have been buying wedding presents ("books" in family parlance) like there's no tomorrow...

No, not too personal at all. To be honest, the decision kind of took itself. Elements under consideration were all very highly unromantic. It's much easier to deal with things like bureaucracy in all events of life if you are married, and for us there are - at least under UK, Italy, Belgium, France, Spain, US and Canada jurisdictions (all the places where we have lived or may consider living) - no major bureaucratic/tax disadvantages to being married. Your mileage may vary.

Plus, we get a two week paid holiday... for ourselves. Thanks, grandmothers.

Funnily enough, it was a bit of an issue (the NOT marriage) in the first few years (3-4) of relationship, then DWTB accepted that marriage and commitment are two different things, and she liked the commitment best. Now, with children, schools, houses, mortgages, bits and bobs being married just makes life simpler. At least, we hope!

Edtied fro Inglish (that's what it looked like before the edit!)

I married in 1973 after knowing my husband for just 2 years. Back then if you came from a decent God fearing family ( my Mother`s words, not mine ! ) you`d sooner stick pins in your eyes than live together in unwedded bliss. It was the norm to meet, become engaged and then marry and have your first baby within a short time of marrying.
We organised the wedding in a matter of weeks because we`d managed to find somewhere to live and didn`t dare miss losing it. It was a very small rented flat, we were both young, had very little money and very little to put into our home and what we did have was secondhand.
Then we hit the road of over 30 years of working together, pulling together, struggling together, saving together and often fighting together to buy our first house and to raise and educate 3 children.
Sadly life was just beginning to come together with more free time, kids all grown up and finances much easier when my husband died. BUT I wouldn`t have swapped a minute of the early years when we appreciated every little thing and battled towards every small achievement. I didn`t own any diamonds back then but somehow life seemed to sparkle.
Lnne

that is very moving lynne